Section 10 Communication Attitude (Part 2)
The bodyguard's tone was not arrogant, nor was it obviously mocking people, but anyone would feel harsh when he heard it.
This is how Chen Yi feels.
But he noticed even more the panic of the middle-aged man's wife, and the wide-open, stunned and lost eyes of the child leaning against her arms.
He felt an inexplicable anger burning in his chest, and despite his efforts to suppress it, it was still crazy and rapid.
“Too much!”
Even his tone could not help but contain angry accusations.
Li Yin's expression was very surprised. Maybe no one had ever spoken to her like this. But she did not lose her temper, but was calm and calm, and slowly said, "Even if you are very angry and think I am doing something wrong, you can say it out well. Can you not be so angry? This makes it difficult for me to accept it and feel sad."
One sentence extinguished the anger in Chen Yi's heart. It made him suddenly think of his parents who were quarreling. Yes, such a tone of venting anger could not be a communication attitude. What is the difference between this and Chen's father suddenly scolding others?
"I'm sorry." Chen Yi tried to calm herself down and not think about the boy's eyes. "I think this is too much."
"Is it out of sympathy for the weak?" Li Yin looked up at him and asked softly, without arbitrary and certain tone, as if she was trying to understand his mood seriously.
"That middle-aged man just took it upon himself, but I think his wife and children are around him. Such things will hurt them."
Li Yin held Chen Yi holding her palm with her hands, put it in front of her, and looked at him seriously and said, "I have considered this at the beginning. That's why I chose this way to deal with it as gentle as possible. It's not that I don't want to endure a little grievance and tolerate others. If it's just you and me today, I'm willing to ignore this person and I'll forget it, if this will not arouse your disgust."
Chen Yi felt her seriousness, and her unhappiness completely calmed down, leaving only doubts.
"Why is that?"
"I hope I can consider some of it for me. The driver is my sister's person, and so is the bodyguard. If I refuse to respond, they will say when they talk to others after dinner that the second lady is so cowardly and bad, not like the master and wife at all, nor the ability to deal with things. This is not only because I am being looked down upon and put on a bad mark on myself, but also because my sister and father are laughed at. They will worship me in the future without respecting me."
Chen Yi had never thought so much, and did she think so complicatedly. She couldn't completely digest it for a while and just kept silent.
"I know you have a good heart, and I am very considerate of your reasons for being angry. My sister and I have very different personalities. If I compare my sister to a snake that likes to swim around and attack, then I am a snake that likes to hibernate in a hole. But I will fight back when attacked. And like my sister, we are all poisonous and toothed snakes. Virility is innate and innate. This is the most real situation and situation. If you don't like this toxicity, I am willing to not take the initiative to hurt others, but if you ask me to become a poisonous and toothless snake, I can only say with grievance - this is impossible."
These words were very vivid and appropriate, which made Chen Yi understand Li Yin’s situation. Yes, the environment she was in was completely different from his, and he could not even imagine it, just like Li Yin’s subconscious consideration of things was very broad, unlike him who just felt narrow-mindedly.
She needs teeth and toxicity to protect herself. Just like what she encountered last time, she was destined to suffer a lot of harm when she was born, like a poisonous snake that would definitely be hunted by natural enemies.
But what he felt more deeply was Li Yin's attitude of communicating with him. He also suddenly understood why his parents were always quarreling, because one of them would always be angry and scolding each other. Even if he heard the other party complaining about his own thoughts and difficulties, he would refute coldly halfway through the hearing, only listened to his ears, but never listened to his mind. Until the quarrel was over and calm down, he would suddenly mention to Chen Yi and Wenwen one day that some of the other party did have some efforts, and it was indeed not easy.
"I was wrong with losing my temper just now. I couldn't think of so much about this, and I didn't understand the aspects that you must consider in your situation. In fact, if you think about it carefully, the child has such a arrogant and unreasonable father who is a little money-making father. I was afraid it would be difficult not to be affected. Perhaps your response method is the gentlest way you can think of."
Li Yin couldn't help but smile happily, and blamed herself, "It's not the gentlest one, it's just that I'm stupid and was in a hurry just now. I'm intuitively able to use my sister's gentler way of dealing with it. It's not unreasonable for you to be angry. I'll try to be calm and deal with it more appropriately in the future. OK?"
"I feel ashamed when you say this. If I really don't know what to do. Although I won't argue with him meaninglessly, I might close the car window and ignore him. He scolded him too much, but he might turn into a fight. I never thought of such a smart way as you."
Without any worries, the two of them walked slowly along the road with hands. Li Yin walked slowly, so Chen Yi was not in a hurry and paid attention to adjusting the pace and speed consistently.
"But think about it, it's really not cheap to fight for your tone."
"Well. I just remember what my father said before. Some faces and money should be fought for, and some faces and money should not be fought for. But I also considered it, so I told me to go through judicial procedures. If I delayed for a year or two, the depreciation of the currency would be calculated, and the investment interest rate factor would be equivalent to reducing expenditures, and it would also reduce the actual income of the rude person in disguise."
Chen Yi asked in detail with a fresh look, and only after listening to Li Yin's explanation did he understand. If the money to compensate the car could be delayed for one year, then the investment income of the money in the year would be equivalent to making up for the expenditure. Compared with the middle-aged man, the car was scrapped, and before he received actual compensation, he suffered more losses in disguise because he did not get the funds.
Chen Yi suddenly realized, "No wonder he saw many reports before. Some economic disputes are clearly destined to lose the case, but they still have to be entangled endlessly. If they delay for half a year, they will actually make a lot of money even if they lose the case, right?"
"It should be true. I don't know much about this specific matter, I only know a rough idea. Anyway, you don't want to laugh at me in my heart. I think I can't settle the bill and spend a lot of money to buy it. Actually, I have considered it. Anyway, he actually suffered a lot of losses, and my losses are not as big as I seem."
The heads in the square in front of the temple encouraged Li Yin, who was very uncomfortable with this crowded scene. Chen Yi could clearly feel her uneasy and panic. So he led her to wander outside the temple and said that he would wait for less people to go in and burn incense.
Seeing that Chen Yi was a little lost when he was walking along the way, Li Yin shouted softly and asked him what he was thinking.
"I just suddenly remembered the situation in my memory that I communicated and understood like I did just now... I never had it."
"How could it be?" Li Yin seemed very surprised.
"The so-called communication I have seen and heard since childhood has no result. Finally, I finished talking to each other, but I was still blaming each other, just like... I was holding my own thoughts and insisting on admitting my mistakes before I could get things done. Think about what the result would be? I just continued to argue endlessly. I might get used to it without realizing it. I felt that such words were very redundant, and I felt that there was no need to say anything in disagreement, and there would be no result to say it, as long as we do our own things."
Li Yin held his face with one hand, looked at him quietly for a moment, and smiled and said, "It seems that he has seen such disputes. I don't quite understand why they are. Anyway, my sister, my father, and I don't know that way, and of course I hope I can't do that with you either. I think communication is to understand each other's thoughts and the degree and bottom line of accepting something, so that we can tolerate each other and pay attention to not touching each other's bottom line when encountering similar situations in the future, so that there will be no conflict."
This is a very novel view, and Chen Yi felt enlightened.
Communication is to understand each other's ideas and the bottom line that each other can accept when there are differences in their opinions, not to convince each other to follow their own principles.
"It's really my luck to meet you." Chen Yi sighed sincerely in return for Li Yin's smile.
There were fewer people in the temple. Chen Yi led Li Yin and knelt on the cushion like her, and made a wish.
‘Although I used to think I was a somewhat unfortunate person, I am very happy to meet Li Yin now. Although she knows more than me and is smarter, the gap between them is very big, just like she is not in the same world at all. But if there are really immortals and Buddhas, I still hope to give me a chance to persevere and a chance to get to the end of my life with her.’
'I hope the Buddha blesses my father and sister in peace and health, and blesses my lover Chen Yi, the safe and healthy one. Please let me bear the disasters that he is destined to encounter in his life. If all dangers can be loved by the Buddha and turn misfortunes into good fortune, please allow us to create miracles and create miracles that can work together until the end of our lives. Although this is a luxury wish, I still can't help but hope. Chen Yi is a kind, humble and hardworking person, and is also a person with persistence. No matter how my sister places me and him cannot go far, I still hope that there will be miracles. Miracles that I work together with him can create.'
...
Chen Yi heard his wish in the illusion and also heard Li Yin’s.
He woke up from his dream at six in the morning.
For some reason, his heart hurt and couldn't help himself, and it made his heart feel like he was being squeezed with an invisible hand. This feeling of sorrow actually stimulated him to cry, which was of course something he couldn't bear. He tried his best to suppress this inexplicable grief, but couldn't help crying in his heart.
‘Did we really meet each other before, can we meet in reality, and why am I inexplicably sad!
Chapter completed!