Chapter 39 The Difference Between Love and Marriage
"It's fake." Kato Ei took the teacup, took a sip of hot tea, let out a sigh of relief, and said, "No matter what, I am also an ordinary girl. If a boy is willing to do so much for me, how can I not be moved!"
"Just touched?"
"Of course there are some other considerations." Kato Eki said: "But at that time I found that Eriri seemed to like An Yijun very much, and Senior Sister Xia Zhiqiu also had an ambiguous attitude. In addition, Zuo Jun revealed that meaning to me again, so I never considered An Yijun again."
"So, if it weren't for my appearance, even if Lun had Yingliri and senior sister around him, you would have fought?" Zuo Xiaoyou asked.
"I don't know." Kato Ei shook her head: "Because I haven't thought so much and encountered that situation, I don't know what choice I would make under that situation." After a pause, I smiled and said, "But An Yijun is indeed a pretty good boy. If I hadn't met Zuo Jun, maybe I would find a way to be with him!"
"What are your plans now?" Zuo Xiaoyou looked at her: "After all, you chose to reject me in this situation."
"Because I overestimate myself and underestimate Zuo Jun too much." A hint of gloom in Kato's eyes: "Actually, I really want to agree, but I am afraid that I will not be able to deal with my relationship with my concubine in the future, so I chose the strategy of retreating to advance."
Zuo Xiaoyou was stunned.
Kei Kato smiled and said, "Do you Zuo Jun think I am a scheming girl?" Before he could answer, Kei Kato said to himself: "Actually, I am really scheming, but I also think that making changes is a very laborious thing, so it is not the person or thing I identify with. I don't want to waste time and energy, so on the surface it gives people a feeling of being cold about nothing."
Put down the teacup: "I rejected Zuo Jun at that time because I hope Zuo Jun could compromise with me. In the least, I would also give me some promises. But I never dreamed that Zuo Jun found a girl who was so suitable for you so quickly."
With a smile, tears slowly slid down: "Maybe this is God's punishment for my greed."
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After a moment of silence, Zuo Xiaoyou asked, "Then are you willing to be my concubine?"
Ei Kato wiped her tears and smiled and said, "Zuo Jun is really greedy! Do you think I will choose to be a concubine after rejecting the position of my wife? Then am I too humble!"
"Sorry." Zuo Xiaoyou sighed: "It's me that I'm too greedy."
"It's okay." Kei Kato shook his head and smiled, "We will still be good friends in the future?"
"Of course." Zuo Xiaoyou focused on the head.
"Can you stop avoiding me in school in the future?" Kato Ekima said: "If possible, I want to eat bento with Zuo Jun."
"I can only promise not to avoid you anymore, but I will discuss with the Black Cat like eating bento." Zuo Xiaoyou apologized: "After all, I have already confirmed my relationship with the Black Cat. Out of responsibility for my feelings, future marriage and family, I must report to her when it comes to getting along with the opposite sex."
"..." Kei Kato smiled again, but she smiled bitterly: "Zuo Jun is indeed a qualified boyfriend and husband candidate. If only I didn't reject you at the beginning."
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Soon after, Zuo Xiaoyou left. Although this conversation made the gap between the two disappear, Kato Kei repeatedly regretted his original choice, which made Zuo Xiaoyou feel a little uncomfortable.
Things like love really cannot be discussed. Once the conditions are mentioned, they are no longer related to the relationship, but are real exchanges of interests. Just like when a loving boyfriend and girlfriend during a relationship, once marriage issues are involved, there will definitely be problems such as car house betting gifts. It is okay to meet a wise parent, but once you meet a parent who is profit-first, even years of relationship will be destroyed.
Marriage is a kind of exchange of interests after all. If you still hold on to love, then the food, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar, tea and other trivial matters after marriage will soon cool down your love. After all, love is an attraction caused by the secretion of hormones between men and women.
When you are in love, you will be happy with each other and wish you can always be stuck with each other. However, when hormone secretion becomes calm, rationality will regain the high ground. At this time, when you see the other's strengths, what you see becomes a disadvantage. So when facing the other's weaknesses, once the hormone secretion is no longer the bonus, can both men and women still tolerate each other?
If you can tolerate it, then congratulations. Although you will face some quarrels and bumps in your life, you will likely be together with the other party until you grow old. But once you can't stand it, it's a pity. You will be hurt by this relationship and marriage, and then you will become very cautious and vigilant when choosing the next relationship and marriage, which will give people a feeling that it is difficult to get along with. Even if you meet a suitable partner, it will be difficult to deliver it to the other party wholeheartedly. You will always find ways to prevent one move to avoid secondary harm.
So unless the other party really has various bad habits and unbearable defects, those who have already married should be careful about their marriage. Because divorced men and women, unless they are particularly rich or have extraordinary appearance, it will be difficult to find a remarriage partner that can be delivered to their body and mind. Even if they find it, the experience of the previous marriage will affect your life.
In short, couples who are married in second marriage are not as simple as couples who are married in one marriage. Couples who are married in one marriage may have various shortcomings, but at least it is your first time for each other and it is easy to live together. However, couples who are married in second marriage may encounter them for good luck, but most of them are difficult to merge as smoothly as the first time.
What kind of person you are will come into contact with. The difference between the people you meet at this level is actually not very big. You should also have a preliminary judgment and have a preliminary plan and psychological expectation of your married life. But don’t expect too much. Marriage really does not have perfect happiness, but is more about facing various problems in reality. Can you face it together? This requires emphasis on thinking.
Many people only consider themselves and only hope that the other party will shelter them from the wind and rain, but rarely think about what they should give to the other party, and whether they are willing to face it hand in hand with the other party when the other party encounters setbacks?
So falling in love is a very simple thing. If you are happy, you will be together, and if you are unhappy, you will break up. Anyway, you are not married, you have no worries, and it is easy to start over. But once you enter into marriage, you must be fully prepared to face the difficulties in reality. What you can face can be called a mature adult. But what you can't face is a child who has grown up and mature children. In short, love is a child's choice, and marriage is the adult's choice. Because children cannot bear the burden of the family, adults can.
Those so-called single nobles are actually children who cannot grow up. Maybe they can make a lot of tricks when they are in love to make you happy, but once they face marriage problems, they are the most unreliable people. They are not far from taking responsibility, so how can they give you a lifetime of happiness!
At the beginning, Kato said that he did not want Zuo Xiaoyou to take a concubine, which was an immature manifestation. After all, Zuo Xiaoyou was a nobleman, and had the right to take a concubine legally and had the ability to take a concubine. Kei Kato stopped him just because he only considered the choice for himself. So Zuo Xiaoyou could only choose to give up. After all, he stated from the beginning that he would take a concubine in the future, so there was no so-called moral deception issue. As Kei Kato said, she was too greedy and was harmed by greed.
However, this incident also allowed Kei Kato to learn something, letting her know what choices she should make when facing the relationship between men and women again in the future.
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After that, Zuo Xiaoyou's life was calm. He went to school from Monday to Friday, had lunch with Black Cat at noon, and after school in the afternoon, he accompanied Black Cat to write games in the multimedia room. After the event, he went home to cook for Samu. After dinner, he would chat with Black Cat via his mobile phone or laptop.
The conversation is basically about the important things in novels and games. Zuo Xiaoyou is still very dedicated to helping Black Cat. Then at around 10 o'clock in the evening, Zuo Xiaoyou will write for an hour, no more or less, and then rest after coding.
However, since he slept with Sagi, Sagi often pestered him to sleep with him, and for this reason, he would even run out of his room and enter his room.
Although he felt that this was not good, Sagi seemed to be too attached to him, every time he saw Sagi's tears, he could not resist it and could only follow Sagi's thoughts.
He could feel that although Sagiri gave up being his wife and concubine, he had put in all his bargaining chips in the relationship between brother and sister. There could be many wives and concubines, but there was only one sister. Although Sagiri was young, she would never be simple in her heart through the Internet for many years. The little girl had a lot of thoughts!
By the weekend, Zuo Xiaoyou's house became much more lively. Not only An Yilun would also run to his own home to make games, but Yamada Fairy would also come over to play with everyone. Since she learned that Zuo Xiaoyou had invested in a club game, she was very interested and took the script to read it. After reading it, she was moved and she burst into tears. Then she decided to join the game production team.
Although she has not played any role because the script has been completed, as a creator of light ranking, the story in her mind is worth investing in, so Zuo Xiaoyou temporarily took her under his command. Considering that if she continues to make games in the future, her brains should have a considerable effect on the club.
As the home becomes more and more lively and the number of black cats coming more and more frequently, the number of times Shamu appears in front of people has also increased sharply. Now Shamu can face guests normally, but every time she faces the black cat, she will show a kind of hostility, which makes the black cat a little helpless.
But it was just helpless. After all, for the "Fallen Heavenly Holy Black Cat", what is Sagi's hostility? She is the woman who signed a blood contract with Zuo Xiaoyou!
Black Cat, who has rich experience in taking care of her sister, is easy to deal with Sagiri. Surrounded by various gentle means, even Sagiri gradually lost hostility towards her. However, in the latest "dead struggle", Sagiri deliberately broke the red date porridge that the black cat brought over. Then the black cat's black aura was fully opened, pressing Sagiri on its thigh and slapped it hard, making Sagiri cry, which made Zuo Xiaoyou stunned.
But the effect is also great. Since then, Sagi no longer dares to whisper in front of the black cat. He even feels a little scared when he sees the black cat. He also obeys the instructions given by the black cat, just like a subdued m.
However, this also made Zuo Xiaoyou reflect on his past practice of taking care of Sagi. He summarized an experience, that is, he was too indulgent to Sagi in the past, thus developing her willing and often turning a blind eye to other people's kindness. In short, it is a spoiled child.
So when facing the black cat, even if the black cat tried its best to treat her at the beginning, she still didn't take that trick, but instead seemed even more indulgent. It was not until the black cat took a ruthless move and slandered her body that it began to change in a good direction.
"So that's it. I'm still too soft-hearted. I can't be used to the sausage anymore."
When Sagi heard Zuo Xiaoyou's words, she almost cried on the spot: "No."
Time came to the New Year's Day holiday without realizing it. In this time and space, Japan still retains some festival customs known to the past life. For example, the day of New Year is recognized by the Japanese as the beginning of the New Year, rather than the Spring Festival that the Song people think of. Therefore, Japan will have five days off during the New Year to celebrate the arrival of the New Year.
Generally, we will go to various shrines to worship on the first day of the New Year, so that the year will have a good start. The so-called shrine worship is the common form of throwing a coin to make a wish, and then drawing a lottery. It is best to draw a good fortune and feel happy, but there are also unlucky guys who draw bad luck. At this time, they will fold the lottery into thin strips and tie it to the branches specially prepared by the shrine to eliminate disasters or something, so that they can eliminate bad luck.
Saying so much is actually a feudal superstitious activity. If human destiny is arranged by God, then why should humans work hard? Just lie down at home and wait for good things to come.
But it is boring to say this. Just treat it as a custom, not to ask for good luck, but to be at peace.
Before the holiday, Zuo Xiaoyou made an appointment with Black Cat to visit New Year's Day together, but on the first day of the holiday on December 30, he received a call from Shiyu Xiazhiqiu: "Do you want to go to Shiyu Xiazhiqiu for a New Year's Day with your beautiful senior?" Shiyu Xiazhiqiu's tempting voice came from his phone: "You can see the senior sister in a beautiful kimono."
Chapter completed!