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Zuo Zhong is character, but Dai Chunfeng is attitude. In the past, when talking about people's honesty, it was probably in terms of character. Honesty, sincerity, and sincerity are all virtues of a gentleman; dishonesty is a deceitful villain. Character

Sex is half born and half nurtured; the expression of character comes from nature and is the whole person. To say that a person is an honest gentleman or a deceitful villain is to settle accounts based on his deeds. A gentleman is probably always a gentleman.

, a villain will probably always be a villain. Although it is said that temperament can change, and a person can only be judged after closing the coffin, these are just special cases. In the society, there are not many such stereotyped gentlemen and villains, and ordinary people generally float and sink here.

Between the two worlds. The so-called ups and downs mean that these people cannot control themselves, and they will inevitably cheat sometimes. This is also natural. There is another level. These people sometimes consciously increase or decrease their sincerity towards people and things.

, to adapt to the situation. This is attitude. Attitude does not necessarily reflect character; an honest friend will also lie or something when he has to. Attitude is out of necessity, out of social or social necessity, ordinary people

This necessity is unavoidable. This is an item of "sophistication and human kindness". Sometimes it can be forgiven, and sometimes it can even be tolerated. There are many changes in attitudes, which may be more interesting in modern and changeable society. Our mouths

Words such as "sincerity", "sincerity" and "hypocrisy" that are often said and written about are probably all about attitude.

But most people seem to use these words too strictly. According to their view, there are too many dishonest and insincere people. And when young people look at people and things in society, except for themselves, almost all of them are hypocritical.

Using the word "hypocrisy" in this way seems to be too broad. This is the same general problem as the old gentlemen who say "people's hearts are not as old as they are, and the world is declining." Most people seem to confuse character and attitude. Young people seem to confuse character and attitude.

The same is true, but with the addition of various illusions of "innocence" and "purity". Honest character is indeed rare, but no one has faults. No matter what aspect, there are always very few perfect people or saints. I'm afraid we only

Be more tolerant, be humble, and focus on attitude. Otherwise, there will be too many unnecessary worries and disputes. As for innocence and purity, it seems to be only the duty of children - old-fashioned children are really not pleasing to the eye. But if a person

If he is always so innocent and pure, he may not have much, but he will cause too much trouble to others. Some people praise "childlike innocence" and "childishness", but they are limited to small programs that have nothing to do with the general situation, whichever can adjust the atmosphere of the tablet.

If the same is true at an important moment, then innocence may be just willfulness, and purity may just be ignorance. Fortunately, insincerity, insincerity, hypocrisy, etc. have become mantras, and most people just follow everyone's words, and at most they frown and sneer.

Laughing, showing that you have no choice but to go away. Of course, you can't be serious, but it will hurt yourself and even hurt others. Young people are easy to be serious and dissatisfied, and their dissatisfaction is often the driving force for social reform. However,

They also need to be aware that if they take the distinction between sincerity and hypocrisy too seriously, they may become nihilists.

Song Minghao and Gu Qi have their own distinctions between things, and it is most difficult for words and deeds to be just right. Sincerity is indispensable, but the distinctions are different, so you might as well consider adding or subtracting some. This is where all kinds of etiquette or cutscenes come from. Some people say that etiquette is

The art of life, the original meaning of etiquette should be like this. The so-called politeness in daily life is also a kind of etiquette or a formality. Some people think that politeness is too formal, does not show sincerity, and is not a sincere attitude. These people advocate being frank and natural. Being frank and natural is not a bad idea.

No, but you have to look at the person. It would be a bit wild if you act like this when you meet a stranger. Even if you are an acquaintance, it is not okay to be uncontrolled and willful. Couples are considered to be familiar with each other, and sometimes they have to "respect each other as guests".

Others can imagine. In short, in different situations, straightforwardness can naturally express sincerity, and politeness can also express sincerity, but the degree of sincerity is different. Politeness must be generous and consistent with your status, otherwise there will be too much sincerity; too much sincerity

Too much, sincerity is too cheap.

But the degree of sincerity is different. You have to be polite and generous, otherwise it means you have too much sincerity; if you have too much sincerity, your sincerity will be too cheap.

But the degree of sincerity is different. You have to be polite and generous, otherwise it means you have too much sincerity; if you have too much sincerity, your sincerity will be too cheap.

Seeing people, treating guests, and giving gifts are all just formalities. Some people say that these are just hypocritical clichés and boring things. But they actually also show sincerity. You must have this person in your heart before you go to see him, treat him, or give him gifts.

Giving gifts to others is a sign of sincerity. As for the number of visits, the length of time, whether you are the host or guest, or whether you are accompanying the guest, and the circumstances of giving gifts, it is only a difference in the amount of sincerity, not whether it is present or not. When you look at someone, you will look back again, and when you treat a guest, you will look back.

Replying to an invitation and giving a gift only means a sincere reply. As the old saying goes, "it is indecent to come back but not to reciprocate." Regardless of ancient or modern times, favors are always the same. There is a person who sends New Year's gifts, going around and around, and sends them himself.

One of the gifts actually came back to him. He felt it was hypocritical and boring, and treated it as a joke. The joke was indeed true, but the sincerity was still there. Another man met a friend he didn't know very well and said to him, "I

I want to see you." This person told others, "He doesn't need to come to see me. I also know that he won't come to see me. You see, this sentence is boring!" That friend seemed to have too much sincerity.

Ms. Ling Shuhua wrote a short story called "Foreign Rules", which tells the story of a young international student who accompanied a lady from his old family to the park and greeted her in this way and that. She thought she had made him fall in love, but little did she know that he was only good at "

"Foreign rules"! This comedy overestimates the sincerity of the foreign student because the lady from the old family does not understand the new etiquette and new cutscenes. This shows that sincerity does have weight.

People live for themselves and for others. Taking care of other people's emotions without harming one's own identity must be regarded as sincerity and sincerity. Such a tolerant view may make some people live more interestingly. There is a saying in the West

: "Life is a show." It's okay to be a show, as long as you have the intention to do it for the best. Some people may think it's a show, but as long as it's for everyone's benefit, this kind of show is worth doing. On the other hand, sincerity and sincerity

It may not be a joke. Nowadays, people often say, "I am telling you sincerely", "I am very sincere", flaunting one's own sincerity and sincerity, with the air of a salesman saying that the melon is sweet, an honest gentleman

Probably not. However, most people have become accustomed to it and know that this is just to increase the weight of sincerity and emphasize their attitude. It is not the same thing as the shouting of traders. Ordinary people are ordinary people after all, and they have to be added or subtracted according to the situation.

Sincerity changes their attitude; this is inevitably a bit of a joke. There is also a saying in the West, "Honesty is the best policy", and "honesty" is just an attitude; this seems to be a joke.

Wu Chunyang and Fu Ling

The same sentence "I invite you to play at my house tomorrow" will make children full of expectations. Once it fails, they will have no friends for a while; adults will only treat it as a courtesy and joke, but once it comes true, they will be a little surprised: he actually

What I said is true. This is actually how to view the issue of "sincerity". It would be too naive for adults to regard politeness as a blessing and accuse others of being dishonest.

We tend to confuse character and attitude, and unconsciously lean towards character. What is the difference between character and attitude? The author said: character is generated and nurtured, and is the whole person; attitude is to adapt to the situation.

Change, and consciously add or subtract sincerity towards people and things.

Since sincerity in many cases refers to an attitude, and the attitude changes with the situation, etiquette and formality naturally arise, such as politeness. Politeness is frankness. On the contrary, frankness is good, but it depends on the person and the situation; politeness

Sometimes it is considered to be fake, but it can also show sincerity.

Expressing politeness to others and accepting others' politeness is still a matter of knowledge. When expressing politeness, it must be generous (moderate) and consistent with status (appropriate), otherwise it will make sincerity appear "cheap". Cheap here means reduced value.

.Precisely because sincerity carries weight, over-expressing politeness and expressing it regardless of status and occasion will cause resentment or misunderstanding on the part of the recipient. The author gives several examples of treating people, treating guests, and giving gifts.

Very good proof.

How do you think that although there is sincerity in daily life, there is always a bit of false politeness? The author said: "Live for yourself and live for others. Taking care of other people's emotions without harming your own identity must be considered sincerity.

"Sincerity"; "It's okay to act, as long as you have the intention to do it for the best." You see, "taking care of everything" means having the intention to "be good for everyone". With such an intention, what can you criticize?

Only a wonderful person like the author can have such insight into life.

Only when you have yourself can you have others, and only when others have you can you have yourself. Everyone understands this truth, but many people cannot practice this truth. Originally, there are others besides yourself, but some are relevant and some are irrelevant. It can be said to be "mine"

"Those, such as my parents, wife, my friends, etc., are relevant others, and the rest are irrelevant others. Relevant others form family relatives and friends with me; irrelevant others form society and country with me. I may be willing to just care about myself.

Oneself, but oneself and others exist relative to each other. Without others, oneself does not matter, so he has to take care of his family, relatives and friends, and the society and the country require him to take care of those irrelevant others. Therefore, a "self-made man" is not a good man, and a "self-made man" is not a good man.

"Taking care of oneself" is not a good word, and those who "only know oneself and not others" are not good people. Therefore, the way of Confucius is just loyalty and forgiveness: Loyalty means doing what one wants to do to others, and forgiveness means "doing what one does not want."

"Don't do it to others if you want." These are two sides of the same thing, so we say "consistently." The way of Confucius is just to teach people to consider others.

But in Confucianism, there is a "killing of relatives", Secret Service, Dai Chunfeng, thank you for your support, I only know that I have myself, I don't know anyone else. I only know that I have myself. The way of Confucius is just to teach people to think about others. The way of Confucius is just to teach people to think about others.
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