6048 Be kind to yourself
Yang Ruoqing's words came from the bottom of her heart.
Parents love their children and are willing to work as cows and horses for them. This is human nature and it is only natural.
But no matter how much you love your children, you cannot love without a bottom line or love so much that you forget yourself.
Not to mention that excessive doting will break the wings of children, making them become flowers in a greenhouse that cannot withstand wind and rain, and are ungrateful. At the same time, it will also make one's own love humble and low-level.
"Qing'er, I made you laugh." Yang Huamei smiled bitterly, scooping water to wash the pot and preparing for the next dish.
"After these few events, Shuanzi and I have also figured out that children and grandchildren have their own blessings. When they grow up, they don't just feed the stuttering ones when they were young. When they grow up, they have the idea of growing up.
When you grow up, you want what you want, no matter how capable Shuanzi and I are, we can’t give it to you.”
"As for Dabai, my father-in-law and I secretly went to see Zhang's shop. It was indeed a waiter there. He looks rosy and seems to be doing well. If he doesn't come back, I won't look for him. He has
Just eat and drink."
"As for Xiao Hei, he is still studying and will take the government examination soon. If he passes the exam, our old Wang family will have a scholar from now on."
"If he doesn't pass the exam, it depends on his own wishes. If he wants to study, Shuanzi and I will grit our teeth and support him for another two or three years. If he doesn't want to go back to school, let him go home and take over his father's hoe job.
Just do farm work. When you are fourteen or fifteen years old, it is time to support your family."
"We elders at home can't suffer on our own. We have to eat good food to replenish our bodies occasionally so that we can live longer and help our brothers a lot throughout the day."
What Yang Huamei said was heartfelt. She told a middle-aged mother's bitterness, helplessness, expectations for her children, disappointment, and the last remaining luck.
Yang Ruoqing was a little touched.
Aunt Mei'er is obviously only thirty-two years old, not thirty-three, and there is a age gap between her and the forty-six-year-old Sun.
But when the two of them stood together, the wrinkles at the corners of Yang Huamei's eyes and the wrinkles on her forehead above her eyes were only more than Sun's, not less.
"Auntie, you and Uncle Shuanzi are right to think this way now."
Yang Ruoqing continued, "After decades of life, be kind to yourself."
"Yes, I will," Yang Huamei nodded, "Is this really going to take your milk back?"
"Yes, before I let you stay with me because you were worried about your aunt. Now that your aunt is well, it's more convenient for you to go back and live there."
In this case, Yang Huamei didn't stop her, "It's okay for you to go back to live there, or share a bed with me on a hot day here. It'll be too hot."
"Besides, it's not very convenient to take a bath. After all, my father-in-law still lives in this yard. Every time you take a bath, he asks me to stand guard at the door. The windows are also closed tightly. After taking a bath, the house is full.
The heat is like being suffocated in a rice cooker."
As Yang Huamei talked, she couldn't help but laugh.
Yang Ruoqing also laughed.
The little old lady has a very strong sense of self-protection.
However, she may have overestimated her femininity.
With her figure, I guess she wouldn't even be interested in giving Wang Hongquan a ticket to come and watch her. After giving birth to so many children, her front has become two pieces of skin, which can be used as a mouse pad.
Before Mrs. Sun came over, Yang Huamei asked Yang Ruoqing again about Zhangji Baozi Shop in town.
"Qing'er, a few days ago I secretly went to Zhang Ji's bun shop in the town. I didn't go in, so I hid opposite the bun shop and took a peek."
"I saw Dabai walking the waiting room there. He seemed to be doing quite energetically. He was smiling when he came in and out. He was much happier than before at home."
Yang Ruoqing listened carefully and did not express her own opinion.
Dabai is also a weirdo. He was left to pay off his debts after eating the King's meal, and ended up getting a job in charge of food, drink and housing.
"Qing'er, I'm thinking about whether I should go find Dabai again and tell him that I understand his situation and forgive him. If he wants to continue to work in the shop, he can stay. If he wants to go home, it's fine.
, so that he doesn’t panic and thinks that I haven’t forgiven him yet, so he doesn’t dare to go back home.”
"Auntie, you go to Zhang Ji and tell him what you just told me. I have no objection."
"But you have to remember what you said before about being kind to yourself. Don't let Dabai say a few words to soften your mind and let him get whatever he wants when the time comes."
"No, I am measured again. This time I am determined to let him suffer some hardships outside and get some good exercise."
"That's fine. I hope he can understand your painstaking efforts soon."
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When Mrs. Sun came back, she was alone. Mrs. Tan didn't follow her.
Yang Ruoqing knew that the old lady was trying to save her face.
"Mom, have everything been packed?"
"Well, you don't have many things to breastfeed, so you have to sort them out."
Mrs. Sun turned around and said to Yang Huamei in the kitchen: "Mother just changed into a pair of trousers and I wanted to wash them off, but she didn't let me."
It's definitely not that I feel sorry for her, my third daughter-in-law, but I'm embarrassed.
The old lady also wants to save face if she farts.
"It's okay, I'll go take a shower later." Yang Huamei said immediately.
"Well, it won't be so hot outside at sunset in the evening. Your third brother will come over to pick up my mother."
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"Why don't Third Sister-in-law and Qing'er have dinner at my house?"
"No, I have things to do at home and I have to go back."
"Okay, then I'll give it to you."
After seeing off Sun and Yang Ruoqing, Yang Huamei turned around and went to the main room to call them for dinner.
Wang Hongquan was lying in the room. The old man was not in a good mood these days because the second daughter had not been seen since the quarrel with his son and daughter-in-law. But the old man didn't know what to do, so he kept holding it in, and his body kept going over and over again.
Very unlucky.
It was the time when the rice in the fields outside needed to be taken care of. The old man couldn't bear it once he went out. Wang Shuanzi had no choice but to go to his cousin Wang Hongtao's house next door to ask for help. He asked his cousin and his two cousins to help, and first took care of the rice.
It took a while to get over it.
Yang Huamei first went to say hello to Wang Hongquan and Tan, and then went to Wang Hongtao's house next door to call Wang Shuanzi back.
"We have to ask your cousin and two cousins to help us with our farm work. We will also invite them over to have a drink together later." Wang Hongquan reminded Yang Huamei.
Yang Huamei responded: "Yes, I understand."
After Yang Huamei left, Wang Hongquan came out of the room and sat down at the table. Mrs. Tan was already sitting upright at the other end of the table, with two clouds in her eyes and a long face.
"My mother-in-law, would you like some tea?"
As the master of the family, Wang Hongquan was embarrassed to sit face to face with Mr. Tan, so he coughed lightly and asked.
Tan's nostrils twitched, and the corner of his mouth twitched and he began to sarcastically say: "When your family is busy in farming, our men from the Yang family often come over to help, and you have never let them have a bite of food. Why are you changing it now?"
Chapter completed!